Yesterday, I practiced the Interpersonal Effectiveness skill of Keeping the Relationship. I had lost sleep over an issue that I needed to iron out with a friend. I do not like confrontation. I realized it was "now or never" in having this talk. And I dreaded it.
(Be ) Gentle, (Act) Interested, Validate and (use an) Easy manner. G.I.V.E in dealing with the conversation with my friend yesterday. I also made sure that I did not jump to conclusions. I also had to hold to keeping my respect for myself. (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to values, (be) Truthful. F.A.S.T. I had to speak my Truth and hold to how I was feeling about an issue with this person.
And the good news is: using this skill was effective in having a positive outcome! YAY ME! It is a good tact to take in any unpleasant dealings with another person. I feel good. My impulse was to avoid this person. But, I knew that this wasn't showing that I had learned anything in DBT Skills group. So --- a Borderline triumph.
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