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I am a first-born female over age 60. I am middle class, and have a graduate degree in Business. I have over 28 continuous years in recovery from alcoholism. I have been in Borderline treatment for over 14 years. I still have not reached full-time Serenity, but I have continued to survive this disorder using distress tolerance skills, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, and emotion regulation. These are the 4 components of the DBT Skills as devised by Dr. Marsha Linehan. Email me with any questions at amy@alawebpages.com. Many thanks and blessings for sharing my interest and broadening your awareness of this disorder.

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Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Runaway Train Derailed


I blew my top yesterday. My warnings and words got ignored. Not once, not twice, but for the third time on the same issue. It was not a issue for myself - ot was concerning the health and safety of 2 kids under the age of 5. Just because I am not mother doesn't mean I don't know something about caring for children, watching them play, knowing the pitfalls they can encounter on playground equipment. But to put kids in sandals that are not securely tied to their feet, and ignore previous requests to have them in shoes where they can play. Gravel gets in sandals. The kids have to deal with the frustration of getting the gravel out of sandals. Why not make it easy and just put them in shoes and socks like I asked????????????????????????

I blew up at the one person who could have listened and heeded my words. The mother of the kids is who keeps ignoring me. But my significant other is the grandfather of these children, and he could have enforced my request and supported me. But they both did nothing. They did not support me on the issue. 

I blew. I got very loud, very accusing, very threatening. I can't seem to get through to this person. I get treated as a Borderline who doesn't have a brain or a reasonable mind, and therefore many things I say or suggest do not get taken seriously. It's like I do not have any sense myself. However, he DID DO THE RIGHT thing by remaining calm and not blowing up back at me. I calmed myself. I was fine when we continued our plans with the kids.

I guess we have to buy shoes and socks for the kids ourselves and keep them at our house. I hate broken families where the kids alternate between both parents and their belongings get strewn across 3 households. Well, thanks for letting me vent.

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