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I am a first-born female over age 60. I am middle class, and have a graduate degree in Business. I have over 28 continuous years in recovery from alcoholism. I have been in Borderline treatment for over 14 years. I still have not reached full-time Serenity, but I have continued to survive this disorder using distress tolerance skills, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, and emotion regulation. These are the 4 components of the DBT Skills as devised by Dr. Marsha Linehan. Email me with any questions at amy@alawebpages.com. Many thanks and blessings for sharing my interest and broadening your awareness of this disorder.

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Sunday, July 26, 2009

Distract - Emotion Regulation Skill


Good Sunday noon. Well, the situation from my last posting turned out great! I distracted myself when there was conflicting opinions, and I would have normally blown my top. But a 2 hour separation, and occupying myself on the computer while my significant other left the house proved to be the best tactic to take. I calmed down, and he came home and announced his decision he needed to make in handling the situation - and it was in accordance with what I wanted to see happen. 

I had busied myself on the computer. This distraction ALWAYS takes away my anger, as I become so absorbed in something else, particularly reading information on the internet, or working on some computer project of mine. AND, without my pushing the issue, and beating it to death to try to get him to see the INSANITY of how he wanted to handle things...I said my piece, and let it go. Made for a good outcome. How much of my pushing would have "forced" him to take a different tact and further foster the ill feelings between us on this issue? 

Since we never know the outcomes of taking an alternative course of action - we just have to believe that what resulted was for the highest good of all. Peace.

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